Positivity

Hey everyone and welcome to a new post!  I hope everyone is having a good week.

I’d like to talk today about the power of positivity.  You see, a lot of good can happen when you start the day with a positive mindset.  It opens the door for endless possibilities.  Lets take an example, try to follow along.

Lets say I wake up and immediately think that today is going to be a crappy day.  I’ve been broke for a while and I don’t think I’ll make enough money again.  So my mind is primed from the first second of conscious thought to look at the world in a negative way.  I start my day by making coffee, but I realize I don’t have any creamers.  So I blame not having any money, then I blame not being very smart, then turn it into I am a terrible person with no financial responsibility, and dive deeper into how I should have paid attention to this stuff in school.

It’s extremely tiresome to think this way, but a lot of people do.  Maybe they don’t think in that way, but a lot of us (me included) are guilty of waking up and thinking at least one negative thought right away.  Why?  The day hasn’t even started yet.

It’s all in your conscious thoughts.  I’ve had people argue with me that it’s easier to be negative because the world is full of tough things to handle.  So?  What made tough situations negative?  You as an individual make tough challenges into something more than they really are.  I’ve had people say that’s just who they are.  Let me ask you some questions.

Do you want to be negative?

Do you want negativity to run  your personal and your professional life?

Does negativity attract positivity?

But these questions are easy to answer, they require very little thought.  The answer for almost everyone is, no!  We don’t want to be negative creatures.  We want to be positive and live in a wonderful candy land world where nobody is hungry and everyone gets along.  But we don’t live in that world.

We live in a world of fear.

Try to turn on the news.  Are any stories about how 50 abused dogs found a good foster home?  Or is the story about how 50 abused dogs where on the brink of death, found in the basement of a dog fighting ring, and that neighbor….could be yours.  See how that is twisted for you to be fearful?

Now lets dive into another step.  When we start thinking that we are being negative and finally admit it, we have two options.  We can either get depress and/or angry with ourselves, or we can see the problem and attempt to fix it.  The first option is scary because it drives more negativity into your life, which isn’t what we are looking for.  Negativity breads more negativity.

You might ask “so how can I not be negative?”.  It’s simple, but not easy.

Consciously take charge of your thoughts.  Know that your thoughts don’t determine who you are.  Who you are, determines your thoughts.  If you label yourself as a negative person, guess what?  That’s who you are.  If you label yourself as weak, small, pathetic, worthless….that’s who you are.  But if you label yourself as a work in progress, Rome wasn’t built in a day, nobody is perfect, or any other cliché sayings, that is who you are.

So I want to challenge you.  Find at least 3 minutes in the morning (or whenever you wake up) and say good things about yourself.  That’s it.  At first it’s going to feel awful.  You’re going to feel extremely weird.  You’re not going to believe what you are saying.  You’re thoughts will turn against you.  At first, it’ll be the worst.  But over time, with enough practice, you can master your thoughts.

Does it take 3 minutes a day for the rest of your life to actually change your life?  Probably not.  But it’s a step.  And you have to start the journey towards positivity and success with something.  So why not start that journey correctly, with a small, loving step towards the life you truly want to live.  A life full of love, not fear.

God Bless

Aaron

Generating ideas

Welcome!

Today I’d like to talk about generating ideas.  I know, it sounds like a very vague and general term…which it is!  I love thinking about thinking.  What makes us think?  What makes one person think differently compared to another person?  How do some people seem to generate better ideas in a certain subject then myself?

All these questions to how people think, and I find it very difficult to come up with answer to any one of these!  What is challenging, is that all people are different, and come from very different backgrounds.  I was raised in Snohomish, Washington.  How that affects my thinking habits compared to someone raised in say, Goldsboro, North Carolina, is well beyond my expertise.  But that’s what I want to explore.

The first question I want to ask is; how does an idea move from thought to action.  I must give a fair warning, I might go off on a tangent with this post.

Moving from thought to action

So for the first exercise in generating ideas, I want to explore what it takes to go from the idea to taking action.  I think a lot of what determines thought-to-action is determined by experience.  For example: I have a lot of experience playing the video game Diablo 3.  Now, if I create a new character, I first think about about the reasons to create a new one, then I take action.  It’s pretty simple.  For me, that is very easy to do in that video game.  I have played through that game many times and I know a lot about it.  But think about this; what if I didn’t know anything about it?  What would be my hesitation about taking action on the question of playing this video game?  Again, that’s an easy question for me to answer, because I have my experiences with video games that goes back nearly 20 years.  I don’t want to waste my time, I don’t want to make the wrong character choice for the time I have to play it, I want a fun experience, I don’t want people to think I’m just a gamer, etc etc.

I decide that I want to take action, and I create my character and I start playing.  After a while, I am so intrigued about playing and learning to play better and better, that a lot of the questions I had about it before start to disappear and are replaced by thoughts of “how to I become better?”.

You see what’s going on?

From action to mastery

This is what I am talking about.  It is very easy for me to start something, and so hard to master it.  And that’s where a lot of people fall into.

So the questions change.  Now we ask ourselves; how can I get better, what can I do to be more efficient, how does this spell work with a crit damage buff, what spells should I use with this type of gear, etc etc.  Notice the difference from idea to action, and action to mastery.  When you are moving from idea to action, there are concerns and questions about the act of getting started, but you don’t know anything about the action.  Then when it comes to action to mastery, you are committed to the action, so your focus is on becoming better at that action.

The keywords, committed and focus.  When you are committed and focused on anything, whether its video games, marketing, sales, advertisement, writing a book, your children, your relationship with your wife/husband, or your dead-end job, that’s what you become the best at.

Generating ideas

Ok, so now that we have those two sections done, what about the original thought of generating ideas?  We generate ideas based on who we are, what we are interested in, and what we hope to become one day.  So they come from past, present, and future.  Pretty simple concept if you think about it.  So what makes people better at generating ideas?  Focus and commitment.  That’s it.  The internet is full of websites that can help you direct your thoughts, and we spend a lot of that time on facebook or some other social media for the wrong reasons.  Social media is great if it’s being used for good, but if you are constantly checking out how other people are living their lives and you aren’t living yours, then you should put it down.  Social media is great for generating ideas!  The key is to know when enough is enough.

When I say generate ideas, I am talking about anything.  How to make money, how to garden, how to build a desk, how to decorate a room, how to change your oil, etc…ideas are endless!  So lets come up with ideas in a market and then lets roll with them.  Lets move from that idea, then take action, then become a master of it.

Talk with you all later!

  • Aaron